Make the change.
Historically, there is no greater kiss of death than being labelled a “nice guy.” Sure, it’s great when you’re 10, sporting your Sunday suit and your mum is calling you nice. However, when you’re a full-grown man trying to make his mark at work and get his way with the ladies, the last thing you ever want to be known as is the nice guy. But why? Why is being a nice guy so bad? More than likely, if you’re asking that question, it’s too late and you’re sweet and soft. But here they are, the key concepts of life that nice guys will never understand.
Gentlemen, here’s a little piece of information: Women are genetically inclined to walk all over men. Men, the onus is on us to defend ourselves. Most of what you think of as nice is really you being soft. Maybe it’s always calling her rather than putting it on her to call; maybe it’s letting her stand you up without any protest. The more you bend over backwards for her, the more you’ll be expected to, and with no reciprocation or appreciation. Realise that you can be a confident, desirable male without being a slave in waiting.
Women want to be objectified
Nice guys tend to be sensitive and emotional; sometimes women want to be strictly physical. She wants a man who is decisive enough to say he wants to have sex. If you wait for her to initiate this, you may as well take her home to your bad boy buddy. Be an arsehole to her just to be an arsehole? No. Be confident because you’re a man? Definitely. The reason women like the bad boy is because he is not afraid to say what he wants (which is her). She likes to know that she is physically desired more than she likes to hear your sonnets and love poems insinuating that you care.
You’re seen as a pushover
It’s not just her, it’s also her friends (and your friends) who see you as a pushover, and that growing opinion and impression is reinforcing her distaste for you. You’ll end up being her best friend and everyone’s doormat. Being the nice guy will leave you hearing about how another git broke her heart (after she gave him the best sex ever) and it will leave you in an entry position — forever. Not to mention you’ll be the guy who’s always helping people move, listening to everyone’s problems and never having anyone reciprocate your efforts.
Your strategy is now your identity. You thought you were being nice, when in fact you were becoming the “nice guy.” Nice guys will never understand that standing up for yourself, objectifying women and ending your status as a pushover will be the key to success in the bedroom, the boardroom and life in general.